Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Good News!

The administrator told us we could leave her in the same room until such time as they needed it and after that he would find a private room on another hall for her. It will cost us $4200 a month, so we told her she had to be ready to run a race within a month or so. The beautiful daffodils are courtesy of her niece!


 Our next thing to tackle is all her assets. If she had another stroke tomorrow and required a nursing home, it would take all her money and then they said any land would have to be sold and used as payment until it ran out. I already have an appointment with our attorney on Friday. We have been told that it had to be out of her name for 5 years, but we are trying to figure a way to get around that. Right now, it's all in her name except property that Dad inherited. We told her today that we were going to try to get her name off everything except the house and the car. She is allowed to own a house and a car and that is it before Medicaid would kick in. She just said, "OK". She would hate more than anything to use up all the funds and lose the land. That would kill her.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

The other option rather than putting her in a nursing home if she has another stroke is you guys taking care of her at home .Then she would get to keep her assets. That is VERY hard on any caretaker.
It IS a real shame that anyone who worked so hard for things and has them, has to give them up for their care. But honestly it is their money. I also understand your point. Someone with nothing and that happens to them I am pretty sure medicare covers it.
I really hope she makes great strides in therapy for them in the coming months. So she can get home earlier than that.
Good thoughts coming from here for all of you.
If you keep posting , I'll keep up.
If I think of something that might help or that you may not have thought of...I'll let you know.
I know it is all overwhelming.Beth

Sandy said...

Thanks, Beth. Medicare will pay for the additional therapy, but we have to pay for the room and board. If she didn't have anything, Medicaid would kick in. Makes me understand why there are so many freeloaders who never work and just live off the government.

Anonymous said...

Me, too.
And I am sure she would love to leave you all with something, the family place, to keep.
I can see that bothering her very much.
Will they pick up for the 5 days a week of therapy that you want her to have? (a teaching moment) I think I have as many questions as I have answers and perhaps we could help someone else going through this.
You are great to be sharing this experience . Beth

Sandy said...

Beth, Medicare Part B will pay for the additional therapy. We just have to pay for room and board and meds.

Linda said...

I wish I had some advice to give you, let me know what you find out.

Continuing to pray for complete recovery!

Anonymous said...

Have you taken pictures in for your mom to look at....photos when you were kids,family photos. Might get her talking more, stimulate her brain a bit. Also, try calling her and talking to her on the phone. Maybe while you are there have your brother call and talk to her ,so you can see how she does with it, so it isn't too frustrating for her.
Have you thought any more about a rocking chair for her room? It could strengthen her leg muscles and it is something you usually do without thinking....rock in a rocking chair.
I made up puzzle games for dad and me to play....one of us would start a word on paper and make blanks for the amount of letters that were left...than give each ther clues for the word....we laughed at each others guesses and it helped both of us.
A lot of it was whispers and waiting but it helped to get us laughing and him talking a bit more.
Magnetic letter board if she isn't using her writing hand yet.

Anonymous said...

I guess mainly what I am saying is do anything and everything to see if it helps. Don't wait for the therapy/therapists to do it all.
I had more than one therapist tell me they thought what I was doing was a good idea.
They just don't have the time and don't love her like you do to be able to spend time and effort with her like you do.
The more you help her now in rehab the more independent she will be when she goes home.
That was me before . Aack. I don't always remember to sign my name...but I know you know who it is by the ID.
The one therapy place dad was in was doing something with him for 8 hrs a day , 5 days a week.
Of course there was time for transfers and getting him to and from the therapy room.
You can go in there when no one is using the equipment and help your mom with the pedaling and weights and you can always do things in her room....make it like a girls excersize class and do it with her. Beth

Anonymous said...

Keep up with her meds,make sure you know everythng she is taking and look it up online to see if she really needs it. The docs are usually very willing to help get them off of some of them they think she may not need. Side effects are sometimes a problem. I am going to give you a for instance... ativan....it is supposed to make them calmer...in some instances it makes them want tear at their clothes and take them off and any tubes they have in them.
A urinary tract infection also causes some very strange behavior.

Sandy said...

Once again, Anonymous, I have deleted your liberal drivel and will continue to do so. I'm not interested in your opinion or your comments.