Friday, January 15, 2010


Worthless pretty much describes me right now. Staying every night in a recliner has taken its toll on me. I am tired even though I come home every morning and take a nap for as long as I need...usually 2 to 3 hours. Mom is getting better, but she still is not allowed to place any weight on her foot. Hopefully, on Monday she will get a bit of a reprieve from that. If not, then I will still be staying the night with her until she can. Even when she can, she will be very unstable. She was unstable even before she had the surgery. I wake up around noon everyday and eat some soup or some crackers and lie back down until I have to go back to her house. My brother is there during the day, but he is mostly outside working in the yard...cutting down trees and cleaning up and burning stuff. He comes in every few minutes just to check on her. Mom hates that our lives are dominated by her precarious situation, so its taking a toll on her as well. We owe it to her and she would do it for either of us if she were still able. She never complained about taking care of daddy either! She is a SAINT!


Linda said...

My Mom is still in the early stages of Alzheimers and is okay to stay by herself during the day and also I work about a mile away and I check on her frequently. I have been staying with her since my Dad died and I know how you are feeling. I don't know just how to explain it but I don't feel I belong anywhere, kinda out of kilter, when I'm at my house I feel I should be at Mom's and at her house I want to be home. I hope that soon I will settle into my new life. My brother lives about 3 hrs away comes to take over when I feel I need him to. As far as when the day comes when she doesn't recognize me, I don't know how I will do.

I am so glad that I found your blog because it has really helped me cope alot better.

Sandy said...

Well, thanks, Linda. Glad I am helping someone because I am getting nothing done at my home. My brother told me this morning to not come tonight and he would stay, but I told him I would be back. I can sleep during the day and he would have a hard time doing that. I told him he has to be alert and awake at church tomorrow!!!! It's ok. I can do this!!! I feel your pain as well..staying every night with your mom.