Wednesday, May 04, 2011


When I got to the rehab center this evening, the aides couldn't wait to tell me that Mom balked again at going to therapy. One of them even told me that she said, "Hell, no"! My mother has never in her life said that, so I am really questioning what they say they heard her say. I fussed at her about not wanting to go to therapy and she fussed right back at me. I don't know what she was saying, but when I asked her if she was fussing at me, she emphatically said, "Yes"! I don't know what's wrong. She cried and I cried. I apologized for fussing at her. I don't know what is wrong, but we are going home soon and I am not going to fuss at her anymore even though we are paying $140 a day for her to get more therapy. She has no concept of that. When I left tonight, she told me to, "Be happy". I clearly understood that. I think I am just frustrated at trying to handle so much and I am just tired!!!


Charlene said...

I was going to say this yesterday but didn't.

My mom broke her hip and was in a residetial rehab center for three months. Until that time she was happily independent. She also fought the rehabilitation and went home and lived for another year in contentment. I believe she made a decision and of course it was hers to make.

Anonymous said...

I saw a woman where dad was at rehab that all she said was cuss words. The nurses told me she had had a stroke and it wasn't her at all. And that her family would be horrified at how she did that all the time.
Shorted out wires in the brain.
Maybe Charlene is right and she has made a decision.
Have them check to make sure she doesn't have any infections before you go home(UTI). Also check all her blood make sure she doesn't need something to make it right.
Is she eating enough to keep her alive?
I know you don't have time ,but you may need to read some more about strokes and their effect on people. All that you are describing sounds normal for stroke patients I have read about.
I realize that doesn't make it easier for you. Rest when you can and I am not even kidding about that at all. Read for pleasure to go to a different world for you. Beth

Anonymous said...

When dad was in rehab they had therapists that were availble to us...maybe you need to talk to someone.
I came home every day saying...I am so tired ,the whole time I was taking care of dad. I would come home clean up and fall into bed. Get up to do it another day..I don't recommend that. I am still burnt out. Make sure you still do things with your friends and get out of the house to do fun things. With your mom and without her. Beth
Wish I was closer to help and I don't even know you guys.

Jon said...

Being a caregiver is one of the toughest things you'll ever encounter. Don't forget to take care of yourself.